Play at Your Own Risk...

Nothing takes the taste out of peanut butter quite like unrequited love.
--Charlie Brown (Charles M. Schultz from hit Comic Strip "Peanuts")

Some prices are just too high, no matter how much you may want the prize. The one thing you can't trade for your heart's desire is your heart.
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I'm accustomed to not getting what I want. I'm definitely not worried about things that I know I can't have...materially. However, I just like any man, am always somewhat curious about what makes members of the opposite sex tick. This is not a "woman bashing" note by any means, it is simply an observation of the inconsistencies we tend to overlook when it comes to them.

I will never understand the logic behind women's choices in dating. 9 times out of 10, when I look at my boys, I can see why they would date the people they would. I can see how they can be attracted to them. My female associates, not so much. I'm often confused about what motivates women who always tout the virtues of intelligence, ambition, and stability to date people who are inferior to them in each category.

I have listened to women dog men without ceasing. I have listened to them bitterly make statements about how, "there are no good men left" or "a good man is hard to find" or (my personal favorite) "all the black men are either dead, in jail, or gay." I find these statements to be utterly false and also very aggravating as a good black man. I can rattle off 10 right now. The problem is no that we aren't out there the problem is that you either a) don't want to be with us, b) are with us and treat us like crap, or c) are too hung up on being with someone you know doesn't want to be with you. Honestly, like Katt Williams said, if you are over the age of 21 and you are still talking about how all men are dogs, you need to grow up and start saying all the dudes YOU choose to mess with are dogs.

Fellas, at some point and time in your life you will realize that you are in somebody's life for their convenience only. The relationship is NOT reciprocal. Unrequited love sucks, and we all know it. There has been at least ONE female in every guy's life that he has loved to DEATH. He would have tried to fight the fleshly incarnation of pain itself for her honor and protection. He treated her like a queen and all he got in return was the Red Badge of "Friendship". Ladies, when you do that, you're essentially spitting in the guy's face and telling him, "You're not good enough for me." Then 2 days later you'll call him at 2 a.m. for comforting while a man that doesn't even COMPARE to him is doing you wrong. I have been in this situation. I used to find it annoying, now I find it amusing...

Some people may be wondering about my motivation behind this. Well, let me give it to you. I'm getting tired of black women who are upwardly mobile, intelligent, stable, focused, highly active, and independent completely disrespecting black men. It's old, it's trifling, and it's probably the reason you're single. I simply cannot understand why some women who are building a career and making themselves economically viable cannot deal with a man who is doing the same. Simple cowardice seems to be the answer, you've dealt with men who have had nothing comparable in terms of intellect and drive, yet when you find a good man such as myself, or one of the people I associate, with you run. No one wants to buy a problem. No one wants to commit to frustration. If we can grow up and treat you with respect, admiration, and love, can you return the favor with some understanding at the very least?